Now, I like to think of myself as someone who can take a joke, laugh at it, and tell it again to someone else.
So when I saw this, I giggle and tittered at the first two sections of the list, because I am not without an understanding of what happens when you get drunk. You slur words, suddenly discussing literary works becomes significantly more difficult, and Serious Conversations take place.
However, my giggles came to a sudden halt upon getting to the second section, because it is not only wrong, but it is harmful. It’s rape apologism 101.
If you are drunk, you can say you don’t feel like sex and should expect to be taken seriously. Being drunk doesn’t mean that people have a free pass to have sex with you. Being drunk doesn’t mean you give up your right to your own sexual autonomy.
Why bother caring about this? I mean, it’s just some random ass poster in a random ass bar, right? Some random picture on the internet doesn’t mean rape is acceptable, right?
The problem with this random ass poster, is that it reinforces myths about what is rape, and what isn’t. Rape is rape, whether it happens drunk or sober. Because the victim is drunk, doesn’t make it less of a rape. Saying that you cannot say no to sex if you’re plastered is incorrect, and dangerous. That’s why I care. It leads to more people excusing rapists, by placing the blame on the victim for being too drunk.
While I find many things funny, making excuses for rape is never one of them.