Hahahah Wait, what?

Funny, Funny, THE FUCK?

One of these things is rape.

Now, I like to think of myself as someone who can take a joke, laugh at it, and tell it again to someone else.

So when I saw this, I giggle and tittered at the first two sections of the list, because I am not without an understanding of what happens when you get drunk.  You slur words, suddenly discussing literary works becomes significantly more difficult, and Serious Conversations take place.

However, my giggles came to a sudden halt upon getting to the second section, because it is not only wrong, but it is harmful.   It’s rape apologism 101.

If you are drunk, you can say you don’t feel like sex and should expect to be taken seriously. Being drunk doesn’t mean that people have a free pass to have sex with you.  Being drunk doesn’t mean you give up your right to your own sexual autonomy.

Why bother caring about this?  I mean, it’s just some random ass poster in a random ass bar, right?  Some random picture on the internet doesn’t mean rape is acceptable, right?

The problem with this random ass poster, is that it reinforces myths about what is rape, and what isn’t.  Rape is rape, whether it happens drunk or sober.  Because the victim is drunk, doesn’t make it less of a rape.  Saying that you cannot say no to sex if you’re plastered is incorrect, and dangerous.  That’s why I care.   It leads to more people excusing rapists, by placing the blame on the victim for being too drunk.

While I find many things funny, making excuses for rape is never one of them.


About Dee

Dee is a hardworking twenty-something working as a medical librarian in Texas. Her ability to go on tangents and create non-sensical metaphors is almost legendary.
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One Response to Hahahah Wait, what?

  1. Db0 says:

    While I agree with you in general, in this case I think you might have misinterpreted that section of the poster. From the way I read it, I don’t think it means that one can never say no (i.e. that when they say no, their request can be ignored) but rather that one wouldn’t say no while drunk, much like they wouldn’t refuse a chance to sing, and they wouldn’t recognise that they were being a jackass.

    This probably implies that the poster was written from a male’s perspective (who I assume the author used as the “default gender” and for which pop culture expects that they will loosen their expectations (eg, will never say “Sorry, you’re not really my type”) and will accept sex at every opportunity with a female that meets their expectations. So in the end, it sounds patriarchical, sure, but I don’t think it automatically implies a rape culture.

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