I am thirty. My boyfriend is twenty-two. For those of you too lazy to do the math, that makes him eight years younger. It matters very little to me, we’re sorting through that difference on our own. However, age differences are one of the easily identifiable traits that you’re “allowed” to mock. Most of my friends are pretty enlightened, but I do hear good-natured ribbing about “cougars*” and “cradle-robbing.” However, those same people turn right around and say if the difference were reversed – a thirty year old man dating a twenty-two year old woman – he’d be getting high-fives or no one would think twice about it.
*The term “cougar” absolutely makes me want to projectile vomit. Not only is it objectifying women, completely zoomorphizing them (which is pretty common) but there’s no male equivalent. Seriously. Try to think of one.